GIFT

  Cards on the table: people do not give gifts just like that. Researchers at the University of California identified four main types of gift: gifts that talk about the giver; gifts with which the giver says that he understands the recipient; symbolic gifts for the occasion; gifts that contain many meanings. The most beloved and memorable gifts belong to the second category. Most often, these are things that a person has long wanted, but for some reason did not dare to buy himself. The most unfortunate choice, as a rule, is associated with symbolic gifts. Whatever the gift, the main thing is to remember the “35 cm rule” that ethical experts are guided by. It is built on the principles of proxemics, which explores the personal space of a person. In dealing with people, we allow different phases of rapprochement. The most intimate of them is from 15 to 46 centimeters. It is allowed to cross only with close emotional contact. Therefore, it is desirable to give gifts that touch the hum...

Which is better: experiences or things

 


We divide gifts into four categories according to the level of impressions:


1. Practical and pleasant. There are "boring" gifts like certificates or cash.


2. "For show." Usually they say about such people: the main thing is attention. Inexpensive cosmetics and home accessories often fall into this category. The donor will be sincerely thanked, but it is unlikely that they will ever remember this gift. One of the reasons is that it is extremely difficult to guess the taste of another.


3. Useful. There are usually things useful for the home that are difficult to attribute to super desirable gifts. For example, a toaster or kettle. The advantage is that they can be beautifully packaged and effectively presented.


4. Impressive. You can give a person a new experience. For example, a master class in aircraft control or a cooking lesson. This is the real Holy Grail among gifts.


The researchers note that the overall level of satisfaction with a material gift and an impression gift is approximately the same. But over time, things please less and less, while memories and new experiences become more and more valuable. There are also hidden bonuses: scientists say that experience gifts help strengthen relationships.