GIFT

  Cards on the table: people do not give gifts just like that. Researchers at the University of California identified four main types of gift: gifts that talk about the giver; gifts with which the giver says that he understands the recipient; symbolic gifts for the occasion; gifts that contain many meanings. The most beloved and memorable gifts belong to the second category. Most often, these are things that a person has long wanted, but for some reason did not dare to buy himself. The most unfortunate choice, as a rule, is associated with symbolic gifts. Whatever the gift, the main thing is to remember the “35 cm rule” that ethical experts are guided by. It is built on the principles of proxemics, which explores the personal space of a person. In dealing with people, we allow different phases of rapprochement. The most intimate of them is from 15 to 46 centimeters. It is allowed to cross only with close emotional contact. Therefore, it is desirable to give gifts that touch the hum...

What do psychologists say about choosing gifts?

 

Intuitively, it seems that the more expensive the gift, the better. In practice, this is not at all the case. The high cost of a gift does not make the joy of owning it stronger.


In addition, high costs come with high expectations on the part of the donor. It seems to us that a generous gesture will certainly be appreciated, but psychologists say that the level of appreciation is not related to the price. Tears of joy and eternal gratitude are not guaranteed to anyone.


The high cost of a gift does not make it more desirable. In addition, there is a chance that an expensive gift will not be appreciated the way you want.


The secret of a good gift is in its benefit to the recipient. For example, 101 red roses or the largest teddy bear in the world can give a lot of positive emotions, but the joy will be short-lived. All pleasure is limited to the moment - it's beautiful, unexpected and bright, but in the long run it is completely useless.



The value of a good gift is only revealed over time. Another question is how to find this value? You can look for common hobbies or think about individual preferences - love for movies, games, health care or home comforts.